NEW KITTEN

We got a kitten! And by “we,” I mean I finally convinced my roommate to get a kitten. Her incredibly loved cat passed away over the summer, and while she is very missed, there’s been a hole in our lives (and apartment) that needed filling! My cat, Brady, has been pretty depressed being the only kitty in the house, especially since I’ve gone back to work. Now he has a friend. And such a CUTE friend at that.

We got her last weekend because we both had Monday off and could use the extra day to get her settled in. Turns out LA is currently lucky enough to have a cat shortage, and most of the five shelters we went to were completely out of cats. Which was half AMAZING because animals in cages makes my heart hurt, but less amazing because we wanted one! Eventually we found a non-profit that was having an adoption fair at a petco, and it was there we found Jack. She’s a diluted tortoiseshell kitten, and is SO friendly. She was bottle fed, and basically loves sitting in people’s laps. Anyone’s lap, really. She’s completely unafraid. When you first bring a kitten home you’re supposed to let them hide, keep them in a single room, and away from other animals. This little girl never hid, meowed until she could meet Brady, and wanted to explore the whole apartment immediately. They have become the most adorable best friends.

 

Welcome to the family, Jack. It’s so nice to have you!

GR-93 EZCARAY TO SAN MILLAN DE COGOLLA

AN ODE TO CROSS STITCH

I’ve recently gotten into cross stitching. I realize this makes me about the equivalent of a 90 year old woman. My friend Maggie came over to watch football in November and brought the project she was working on and I watched her do it and realized 1. it looked super cool and 2. it looked super easy. And I was bored and unemployed and so I taught myself to cross stitch!

I made my sister a tiny elephant first, for practice, and then took on a massive project (one I was way too new to understand just how massive it was until it was over). December is my boyfriend’s birthday, our anniversary, and Christmas, and I was unemployed and thread costs 49 cents a spool, so I decided it was obviously in my best interest to cross stitch him something. But I wanted it to be cool and unique and feel like a big present, even if it was home made. So I thought forever about what he liked enough for me to make, and decided to do a map of Cornwall, where he claims to be from (he was actually born in Devon, but let’s not get into it). So I emailed a bunch of old women in Cornwall who were selling patterns, and they all insisted on snail mail instead of emailing a pdf, and that was going to take too long! I was worried I wouldn’t finish on time! (This is a joke because no matter what there was zero chance I’d ever finish on time, but like I said, I was young and naive). So I made my own design. This was insane and involved quite a bit of stopping and correcting things as I perfected the design and how I wanted it to look. Cut to TWO MONTHS later and 25 days past Christmas, I finished! And I think it came out beautifully, if I do say so myself. You can barely see the mistakes I made–I even swapped the East and West back to their rightful places! ?

Now I’m working on an elephant design for my mom (can you tell elephants are a theme in my family?) and I’m LOVING it. It’s coming together quite quickly–it’s been a week and I’d say I’m 40% done, which is insane considering I work 60 hours a week and am only working on it about an hour a day (I was putting in a solid 10 hour day for weeks at a time on that map!).

I have a bunch of other stuff I want to do as well, and I’m slowly finding the patterns for everything. It’s just so fun, and makes me feel creative in a way I never have before. Also it does WONDERS for my anxiety. I think it’s my version of meditation and those anxiety-reducing coloring books rolled into one.

Italian Flag

ITALIAN CITIZENSHIP UPDATE

The last time I posted about this, it was to say that the consulate was taking a crazy long time to process applications, and I was already month past when I was supposed to receive my passport.  In August of 2015 (THREE MONTHS after I was supposed to receive my passport), someone contacted the consulate and realized something actually had gone wrong, and they had stopped processing EVERYTHING. This was definitely not ideal, and wasn’t fixed until January. However, another person called in and was told they have caught up a bit, and as of January 22nd were processing September of 2014 – only two months before me!

As sit’s now February, I’m getting closer and closer to it potentially being time to hear something. ANYTHING. And the more I realize this, the more impatient I get. It was hard knowing nothing was happening. But I knew NOTHING was happening, so it was frustrating but there was no impatience. No nerves. Now I’m terrified that the woman who was sent to replace the previous woman is going to retroactively reject my application. Also there haven’t been any updates since January 22nd! Some may say that’s only two and a half weeks, but I’d argue it’s felt more like two and a half YEARS. So I emailed in very broken, Google translated Italian asking for an update. I’d done this once before in English and never heard back, but I’m hoping the Italian will work in my favor. Also they have GOT to be close to processing me by now!

Fingers crossed it all goes quickly and smoothly from here on out. I’ve been working on this for years, and I am SO ready to be a member of the EU.

NEW YEAR, NEW GOALS

I think by now it’s well documented how much I love to do lists and the setting of goals, and while I’m not really one for new years resolutions, any excuse to indulge, I’ll take.

  1. Focus more on my health. Over Christmas I was constantly sick. First I got a cold, then a UTI (my THIRD this year, kill me), and then was told there was a serious chance I had cervical cancer. Luckily, I went in for a biopsy and everything came back normal (though it went on just long enough to SERIOUSLY freak me out), but my first goal of 2016 is to try to take better care of myself and my terrible, terrible immune system. I’ve always hated taking a lot of pills, but I’ve forced myself to let go of that dislike and jump on the vitamin/probiotic train. So I’m now taking a women’s multivitamin, fish oil, cranberry capsules (which are meant to help with the UTIs), Align, and the prescription for an ulcer I’ve been ignoring because I hate prescription medication. In addition I haven’t smoked since September 2nd, and feel literally no desire to do so ever again. I’ve lasted through two visits with my boyfriend, who is pretty much the person I want to smoke with the most, but the true test will be when I go back to London. That’s where I started and where I’ve never been able to quit. Without really realizing it, I’ve been doing sober January–my interest in alcohol has plummeted since I turned 25–hangovers are just not worth it. The only days I really foresee myself drinking this month are the Patriots playoff game and the weekend of my birthday. I’m trying to drink around 96 ounces of water a day, eat cleanly, and exercise 3-4 times a week. I’m also going to bed REALLY early (like 9:30 pm), so I can be up around 5:30 to Skype Gareth before I have to leave for work (yeah, 5:30 AM). Last May I had been eating really well and going to pilates and running about 5-6 times a week, and I was in the best shape/strongest I’ve ever been. I’d love to get back to that–I had the beginnings of a six pack!
  2. Repair my finances. By living like I was completely broke, I managed to somehow avoid SERIOUS damage to my bank account. I was about a week away from taking all the money out of my investments though, and have definitely had to tap into my savings way more than I’d like. I’ve also racked up some hefty credit card debt. So my goals are to first pay off all my credit cards. I’m thinking this can be done by mid-February, as long as I can spend the next few weeks on the same budget I’ve been on for the past few months. This should’t be too hard, as it’s really hard to remember I don’t have to be constantly panicked about money. Once the debt is paid off, I want to immediately replenish all the money I took out of my savings. I hated having to spend any of it, even though I know the reason I had savings in the first place was for times like these. But I’d like to undo that damage as soon as possible. Then I’d like to get my checking account back to a healthy number, and start a separate savings account for the planned RTW trip G and I want to take.
  3. Continue crafting. December was Gareth’s birthday, our anniversary, and Christmas. Considering I was extremely broke, I had to get really creative with my presents, and it led me to discover a creative side I never knew I had! I’ve started cross stitching, which I am LOVING. I’ll post some of the stuff I’ve done recently sometime soon. I also am thinking of joining this knit along. I haven’t knitted since I was in elementary school, but I practiced a bit and think I have the basics down. Lastly, I want to start this project. It looks so cool, and I think I’d have SUCH a good time figuring out all the fabrics and such.
  4. Writing. I’m halfway through so many things, and done with none. I need to get back in the habit, and I’m hoping I can make it part of my weekly schedule in a way where it just becomes natural.

Those are my immediate goals. We’ll see how well I do keeping them, but as of now I feel excited to take on the challenge!

Glacier National Park

2015 Wrap Up

I can’t believe 2015 is over. Done. Gone forever. It was a big year for me, quite a bit happened, some other stuff failed to happen, but looking back I’m not sure I’d change a single second. It was the first full year I spent spent with my boyfriend (with as in with, not physically together–though I can’t wait for the December 31st I get to say that!). We spoke every day in 2015, there wasn’t a thing that happened, big or small, that he wasn’t by my metaphorical side through. We also got to experience living together, building a home (or at least bedroom) together, and the joys of an Ikea trip as a couple.

I traveled more than I did the year before, which I always want to be able to say. I went to Idylwild, London, Cornwall, Turkey, Iceland, Morocco, Washington, Idaho, Montana, Boston, and New Hampshire. I took 21 flights, went to three new countries and three new states. I showed my boyfriend around, Boston, Martha’s Vineyard, Los Angeles, and Santa Barbara for the first time–his first (and second!) trip to the states. I checked seven things off my 30 Before 30 list, and am well on the way to finishing a few more.

I also struggled with finding employment and the stress inherent in that. I’m still chugging away, applying for jobs, and have hope the new year will bring new opportunities. I’m currently temping for a few weeks on the show Switched at Birth which is REALLY cool as it’s one of my favorites.

I spent the holidays in Boston/New Hampshire/Martha’s Vineyard with my family and Gareth. It was so nice having everyone together–and I think next year my mom and sister are going to come to Cornwall and spend the holidays with Gareth’s family.

Glacier National Park

Thanksgiving 2015

And just like that, summer ended in Los Angeles.

I’m not going to lie, Autumn is my favorite season, and being without it for the past few years has been tough. But Los Angeles does this great thing where out of nowhere it gets cold and a bit crisp. Today, I’m wearing leggings, a sweater dress (!), and tall brown boots. And it’s the best feeling in the world. It has also rained the past two days which I always view as a bit of a treat (compared to living in London when I was desperate for sun warm enough to sit outside in), and Monday there was an awesome rainbow.

For the past four years I’ve had Thanksgiving with Katie’s family (once when she wasn’t here). We hosted this year and her whole family, her parents, both her sisters and their partners and some aunts and uncles, came out. It was so wonderful! (I made a chocolate bourbon pecan pie and it was DELICIOUS.)

Quick update on No Spend Novem (I’ve shortened it because that way it almost rhymes): All my friends planned  a road trip to Vegas. None of us have been, as it’s not the highest on any of our lists. But it’s right there and our friend Maggie is going to support her father in a race. The plan was to road trip, get a cheap hotel for Friday and Saturday, and drive back Sunday. Originally I agreed, because I want to go everywhere and if I’m ever going to do Vegas, I want it to be with my best friends. But then I thought about the cost total, and No Spend Novem, and realized it was just not a real option. Vegas will be right there for the foreseeable future, but I only have one No Spend Novem and I want to kick its butt.

The (selfishly) happy news is that a day after I bowed out, the trip fell apart for unrelated reasons, and now we’re going to try to go in February. So I get the double happiness of making the financially correct decision while not actually missing out on Vegas with my friends.

HOW I AFFORD TRAVEL: CREDIT CARDS AND FREQUENT FLYER MILES

One of the questions I get asked most often is how I can afford to travel as much as I do. The answer is I pretty much refuse to pay for flights, because in my mind, that is an optional fee of which I choose to opt out!

Considering I didn’t travel beyond North America until I was nearly 20, my 16 international trips have all come fairly close together. Below I’ve laid out exactly how I did it–and no, you do not need a ton of money or a rich uncle to afford plane tickets. All you need is some determination, organization, and innovation! If I can do it, you definitely can too!

If you care to read, click below. And please excuse the length, I was as detailed as possible, but didn’t anticipate just how many details there are to include!

The first few trips were relatively discounted because I had a family friend working at Delta. While I was in college, all my trips to London were about $500-600 round trip, and I almost always got to sit in first class (I’m aware this makes me obnoxious). And while first class was amazing, and probably not something I’ll ever experience again, the biggest perk was the flexible dates. I could change my ticket dates at any time and usually pay no fee. But, midway through college this stopped being an option, and while my dream to befriend a kind but lonely airline pilot who wants nothing more than to gift me his Buddy Passes is still very much alive, in the meantime I needed another plan.

After graduating I had rent, utilities, loans, and an entry level job in Los Angeles that paid like they were aware there were thousands of people who would do my job for free. Around this financially tight time, I decided to get a credit card for emergencies and to begin building credit. I got the Premier Card for Southwest and had my first taste of airline miles. Back then I got 50,000 miles for what I believe was a $1,000 spend in 3 months, which I was able to do fairly easily using a mix of actual spend and Amazon payments (where you could transfer funds to a friend and then have them write a check back to you–this is no longer an option). I flew round trip to Boston for $12.00 and realized this could be the way forward. Flying with airline miles also allows the flexibility I had with Buddy Passes, but none of the risk of being the first one booted off an oversold flight (I was once stuck in London for 6 days with a bunch of other Buddy Passes camped out, another time had to fly into Minneapolis and then find a connection back to Boston, and another time I was almost stranded in Guatemala City alone while my travel buddy boarded with the confidence of one who had a real ticket).

Luckily I had a friend who had been collecting airline miles for years who tried to show me the ropes. Unluckily we had different financial backgrounds (read: he was incredibly wealthy), so he bought plane tickets to do what are called “mileage runs,” where he’d buy cheap tickets solely to gain more miles. I don’t know much about this and really can’t help with it, but I can tell you he has millions of miles for the price of a few domestic flights.

I can, however, help with how to reach credit card minimum spends while trying to keep actual spending down. First, you want to transfer all your bills to that card–things like cable/internet, water/electric, car payments, car insurance, phone bill, Netflix, and anything else you subscribe to. Sometimes it’s possible to pay rent this way as well–something to check with your landlord. If that’s a no go, you can pay rent (and make any checks) here, if you’re will to pay 3%. I also use this card for any online purchases–Amazon, food delivery, and was able to put company lunches on it for a few months (something to ask your boss about).

I’m often told by my friends that this credit cards for miles, but they think it feels too risky. I’m constantly questioned about my credit score. The answer is that it’s really not risky if you are organized. I have excel spreadsheets tracking my spending to make sure I hit the minimums, and to remind myself of annual fees so I could consider closing the account or downgrading it to a no fee card. The only other risk comes with overspending–it is incredibly important to pay off your balance every month. It helps your credit score, minimizes the risks of building debt, and allows you to avoid paying interest and negating the savings your are netting by getting miles in the first place.

Second, my credit score is GREAT. Like 800+. When I applied for the apartment I currently live in, my landlord said he’d never had an applicant with such a high score. It’s important to educate yourself on how credit scores are calculated, but overall, having multiple credit cards that you are using responsibly is great for credit. If you’re paying off your balance every month, you are building up your payment history, and your credit utilization (the amount you owe versus your total credit line), both of which positively impact your scores. In fact, the more unused credit you have, the better. For example, if you have one credit card with a $1,000 limit, and you have a $500 balance (50% is utilized), your utilization score will be lower than someone who also owes $500 but has five credit cards with a thousand dollar limit (only 10% utilized). As utilization is 30% of your credit score, this has a high impact.

The two factors that are negatively impacted by multiple credit cards are length of credit history and new credit (credit inquiries). Length of history is an average age of all accounts. This matters, but will eventually work in your favor as your accounts age–so while they may drop you a few points initially, they will eventually start to make your score go up. New credit, or credit inquiries, may also cause you to drop a few points, but fall off your account after two years. I will say from personal experience that though my length of history and credit inquiries are not great, the fact that everything else is perfect outweighs it. And that’s with 10 credit cards. Don’t know your score? Here’s a list of ways to check (my citi cards give me an updated score monthly) and you can also use creditkarma, which is an awesome tool for not only finding out your score, but learning more about your spending habits and your score breakdown.

I’m more than happy to answer any questions–using this method I’ve taken 15 round trip flights (5 international) and only had to pay airline fees and taxes. That much travel would have been completely impossible for me without using miles, and by never having to worry about flights, I was able to take multiple last minute trips and spend money on the places I was going instead of using it all just getting there. It also allowed me to start dating my boyfriend who lives 5,437 miles away.

I promised myself when I was much younger I wouldn’t let anything keep me from my travel dreams, and there are too many potential excuses. Finding the time, finding the courage… this way I knew I’d never need to find the money (at least for flights).

Santa Barbara, California

NO SPEND NOVEMBER

For whatever reason, November seems to be the month for challenges, like MovemberNational Novel Writing Month, etc. I’m not sure why November–maybe as the year winds down, people feel a last urge to accomplish something big before ringing in the new year. I get that, and I’m going to try my own version.

While this year has been full of adventure and amazing personal, professional, and romantic experiences, I’m not leaving it in the best financial shape. And while I had been content to put off digging out of the proverbial hole until I got a job, it’s taking too long and there’s something big I want to start saving for (more on this later). I realize I just did a post about how I had 10+ credit cards and such a great credit score because I paid them off every month, but I willingly went into debt on a few things this year (LASIK, plane tickets I didn’t want to use miles on, living abroad), and now have a small amount of debt to pay off before I start building my savings back up.

This month, instead of using money I would generally spend on unnecessary food, drinks, or activities, I’m going to pay my rent, utilities, any other essential items, and the rest of my budget will go towards the debt. I need to feel proactive and it’ll be nice to completely buckle down.

I’m going to track my spending and post updates–today wasn’t the best start as I had to take my cat to the vet for the first time ever (he has worms and it’s all so gross I want to vomit and die at the same time). I did find a well respected vet that offered free first visits, but the medications were about $90. Not ideal, but taking care of my cat is definitely something I’d list as essential.

Wish me luck!

Hollywood Sign, Los Angeles, CA

Updates

Hey blog/blog readers (aka, Mom)!

I’ve decided to make some changes. I realize by updating only when I’ve crossed something off my list, I’m forced to wait ages between posts, and we’re missing loads of little but important things in between! It’s like when you see an old friend and they ask what you’ve been up to–because they don’t know any of the day to day stuff, the new recipe you found or the great book you’ve just read don’t matter, only the big life events. I want this blog to be like a day to day friend. So while I will continue making the big, milestone posts, I want to do smaller ones too.

For example, my amazing, wonderful, fill-in-your-complimentary-descriptor here, boyfriend just came to visit me! His first time in Los Angeles! We did really great things like see Florence and the Machine from VIP seats at the Hollywood Bowl, and road bikes from Venice to Santa Monica, and hiked the Hollywood sign, and took a quick trip to Santa Barbara, and watched A LOT of Parks & Rec. Confession: we may have spent our night in SB just hanging in our airBnB, drinking wine, eating chocolate and chips, and watching Netflix. And it may have been THE BEST.

Santa Barbara, California

This one is just to embarrass him. He was voted “best body” in high school, which is incredibly amusing and only a tiny bit obnoxious.

Santa Barbara, California

Santa Monica, California Hollywood Sign, Los Angeles, CA Hollywood Sign, Los Angeles, CA I saw two of my best friends/old roommates from Boston in September. Jussie lives in Australia with her boyfriend, and Emily moved to Idaho to work at a school for kids with behavioral issues in Montana. I haven’t seen them since (surprising them at) their going away party two years ago. Jussie had to come back to the states for a wedding, and then planned to go to Emily and fly out of LA after staying with me. However, I have nothing but free time and loads of airline miles, so I flew to Emily too, and had one of the best experiences ever. I’d never been to the midwest, but WOW is it gorgeous, especially Glacier National Park. I tried to be selective, but WAY too many pictures below. It was like living in a painting.

Glacier National Park

Also we added an accent wall, and I think it has made our apartment SO much nicer. It’s just so homey and comfortable. And orange is my favorite color.

accent wall

Lastly, I’m unemployed, and that is kind of the worst. I knew it would be tough getting back and finding a job, but I didn’t know it would be THIS tough. I didn’t want to talk about this cause it stressed me out so much, but it’s also a pretty big thing going on in my world right now. I would never change anything, because living with my boyfriend and seeing more of the world meant so much to me, but I am really, really excited for when I can once more join the work force and feel a little less adrift.

And that’s it for now! Mostly because I am starving and am going to go home to make an incredibly cheap, very healthy meal that maybe I’ll blog about tomorrow!

TANGIER, MOROCCO

Tangier was so much nicer than our Marrakech experience, thank god. We went straight to our hostel, dropped our bags off, and felt the weight of the world  literally fall from our shoulders. Tangier’s on the coast, so while it was still about 115 degrees every day, it felt so much more bearable (meaning we could actually step outside).

Our hostel was really cool–I’m confused about my pictures because I feel like I took way more, but I can’t find them! But from what little you can see, not a bad place with not a bad view.

We went to Hotel Continental, which is steeped in artistic history, and was such a cool sight. The whole trip was strange though–we were always the only people wherever we went. Except at the beach! But Hotel Continental is such a tourist destination, it was shocking to find it completely empty. Other than our server we didn’t see one other person in the entire place. Though now it makes sense because I talked to some locals and literally EVERYONE had bailed because of the heat wave. The city was EMPTY.

There was also a cool gift shop run by this guy who knew all the area codes in the major American cities. I got a really cool print, but lost it on the flight home ? I’m trying to contact them to see if I can get a replacement.

Also, we got a bit lost in the medina (it’s SO confusing), and again a bunch of locals offered to help. Katie, annoyed at being lost and constantly harassed and followed, asked directly how much they wanted to be paid to take us to the hotel. This directness I think caught them off guard, and everyone quickly assured us it was a free offer. We did this the rest of the time and it seemed to work really well.

After a cold drink of water a few rounds of golf, we decided it was still too hot, and we’d head for the beach. This was my first time swimming in an Muslim nation, and it was such a strange experience. I wore a one piece and shorts, and was still completely out of place and honestly, the people there were not happy with me. Then I noticed–women were swimming fully clothed. No special swimwear, nothing. Just jumping in with pants and shirts and everything. (This was when we realized our one piece/shorts combo was a no go, and gave up on the beach.) Also, there was a camel! I’m sure this is for some sad, touristy reason, but it was cool to see. And it was the first time I’ve been in the Med!

We had a delicious dinner of couscous and tajine, loaded up on local chocolate (trying the chocolate of every country should be on my 30 before 30), and went back to the hostel and watched a few episodes of Community while showering in cold water every 15 minutes.

After a fitful night of sleep (we were on the roof, which was gorgeous, but the only way to have any air flow was to leave the door open… to the roof deck where our fellow travelers were drinking, smoking, and playing guitar until the wee hours of the night), we started seriously considering our next move. We were supposed to head into Fez for a day, which was averaging about 130 degrees, and then Casablanca (about the same as Tangier), and then back to fly out of Marrakech–all in two days. We went through a lot of options–including, honestly, taking a ferry to Spain and getting ourselves a nice, highly air conditioned, room. Eventually we decided to go to Fez as planned, but fly back to London from there a day early. This meant we only missed Casablanca, which was a shame but we knew with the heat we’d not enjoy it regardless.

Again, here, we kind of failed. Fez was shockingly hot. I wouldn’t say we had really adjusted at all, but it still blew my mind it could be that hot. It was hard to breathe. No one was outside. One local laughed at us for even being there, saying the people of Fez had left for better weather. We literally couldn’t walk more than a block or MAYBE two without having to stop… you might notice these are all excuses leading to the fact that we found the nearest hotel (pretty far outside the city), got lunch, played golf, I tried a beer, and then went straight to the airport. HOURS and HOURS early, we couldn’t even check in. It was just. so. hot.

We arrived back in London and it was freezing, and I promised myself to never complain about the cold British summers again. I am sad about this trip because I really do think we would have loved Morocco in any other circumstance. It almost feels like cheating to say I’ve been, but then I think about how burned (literally) into my mind it is, and just because I didn’t get to do all the tourist stuff, I definitely experienced Morocco.